Thursday, May 31, 2007

Thankful Thursday

Again, I am blessed. It's difficult to find one thing to be thankful for. . .
Today I choose. . .
My Savior. My Rock. My King.
If you've never heard S.M. Lockridge's sermon My King, it's worth a listen. If you have heard it then it's worth another listen.

An Adoption Story

Someone asked me to share my adoption story. It is a LONG, beautiful story of God’s grace and provision. It is a story of His strength and His courage. You see if He weren’t a courageous God, and if He weren’t a God of ALL strength and power, then I could never have become a mother.

When I was 18 years old I had my appendices removed at that time they found a small ovarian cyst. I was told that it was normal and not to worry. Approximately 6 months later I had this horrible pain in my side and I went to the doctor. I had a cyst the size of a basketball on my ovary, they surgically removed it and said not to worry. Six month later I had a cyst the size of softball, they surgically removed it and said not to worry. And so it went for 4 more surgeries.

At 21 years old I got married. We began trying to conceive right away. After 3 months, at my regular check up I ask the gynecologist if I should be worried and she said probably not, but because of all the surgeries I had gone through she would just schedule a laparoscopy to “take a look”.

When I woke up they told me that I had lost one of my ovaries because it had twisted and became severely infected around and that they had done everything they could to save the other ovary, but I had a less than 5% chance of ever naturally getting pregnant.

Enter all the fertility procedures and drugs, it was a terrible time. We weren’t sure which things were acceptable to our faith and which things weren’t this was 14 years ago and the science was still pretty new. Now I don’t believe I would have tried IVF knowing what I know now, but that is only my own personal choice.

By the time we started looking into adoption we had spent most of our money and some of my parents money on the fertility treatments and at that time private adoptions were running about $15,000 to $20,000.

Enter the Cabinet for Children and Families. We decide that perhaps we would try to adopt a special needs child. We went to the Adoption Training, had a home study and opened our home for adoption and started waiting. This was around Christmastime in 1995. At that time the State was DESPERATE for foster parents, so they called us and conned us into becoming foster parents. I had always said that I couldn’t be a foster parent because it would hurt too much when the children left. But, (there’s always a but isn’t’ there) everything flowed so well that we agreed and within 3 days of opening our home we had a set of 2 year old twins. Then suddenly we had their 1 year old brother, then enter their 4 year old sister.

We were a family, at least we thought we were. Their birth mother was very low functioning and she told us that she would let us adopt them if she couldn’t get them back. They were in our home for 3 years.

Other children came and went but I had the four siblings to ease the pain of the leaving. It was difficult but God gives you the strength you need when you need it. He is a good and gracious God.

Then one day out of the clear blue sky they called us and asked if we could take a premature newborn whose mother had left her at the hospital. I jumped at the chance. I had never had a baby, we were thrilled beyond belief. She was beautiful. I was thrilled and life was good.

One month before the siblings were to have their parental rights terminated an Aunt and Uncle appeared and said that they wanted to take the siblings. Under this States old laws and the old Federal guidelines they were able to take them. After 3 years, they were just gone. I was devastated, but remember I said God is good. He left my baby with me, she was 3 months old and thriving, He gave us strength that we would have never had on our own.

Eleven more children came and went, I loved them all, but they weren’t meant to be mine. I trust Him for each of them. He loves them more than I ever could. My baby was still here with me. She was growing into a beauty!!

She made me laugh when there was nothing to laugh about, she gave me hope. One night I was praying. Begging God not to take my sweet little one, and I heard Him speak to my heart. It wasn’t audible, just quiet and firm and sure. “The child is yours.” From that moment forward I knew, and I gave her the name Danielle. Her birth name was very close to this, and we had always called her Danni. Danielle means God is My Judge, and He is the only one I trust to judge what child belonged in my home.

The State and Federal guidelines changed about this time. Danielle was 24 months old, and we were heading down the home stretch to adoption. The State started a new foster parenting pilot program and they asked us to be one of 15 families to test the program. It was called concurrent placement. It was for children who were working toward reunification and adoption at the same time. We said okay. So we stopped taking children in the regular foster program and opened our home to concurrent placement children only.

The thing about being in a new program is that it took awhile for any children to be chosen for the program. So we didn’t have any placements for a while. This was good, because we needed a break. We took our first vacation and enjoyed our daughter.

Danielle is bi-racial and my husband and I are both Caucasian , so we wanted her to have a sibling who was bi-racial like her. So I began to bug the Cabinet workers for another baby. I pestered them for 6 months and the answer was always the same. We don’t have any babies in the concurrent program right now.

I had started trusting the Cabinet to give me another child, instead of trusting the one who gave me Danielle. Isn’t it strange that we can trust God only so far? That when our wants overwhelm us that we stop trusting him and start trusting ourselves and others?

I had worked myself up into a real huff. I was in the parking lot at the local Meijer and I told God that He was in charge. I said “Lord I’m not going to worry about this anymore, if you want me to have another child, you will bring that child to me.” He must have been waiting for me to let go, because when I got home there were 4 messages on my answering machine. They had a baby and I needed to come down right away and get her. Needless to say I did, and that is how Gabrielle came into our home. (By the way, Gabrielle means the Lord is my Strength).

Danielle’s adoption was finalized and we were ecstatic. She was happy too she did a somersault , in the court room. (I don’t think she really knew what was going on , but we were all thrilled, including the judge.)

Gabrielle’s mother was a very young , very hurt, very confused girl. Life had not been good to her. She told us that she would give up parental rights to Gabrielle, as long as we adopted her, but there was a catch; we had to adopt her son too. You should have seen the look on the social worker’s face when she found out there was another child. Birth Mom had another child in a different state’s custody who was just 1 year and 10 days older. We agreed. It took some time to cut through all the red tape between states and get the boy here.

While we were working to getting Noah (Noah means Peace) from one state to another, my social worker called me. She said sheepishly “I don’t know how to tell you this (long pause) but Danielle’s mother just had another baby.” Hysterical laughter on my end of the phone. I couldn’t do anything but laugh. She said “Are you alright?” I told her that I was but that I had to talk to my husband about this new turn of events. Of course our answer was yes, and so Andrew Isaac came to be our child. (Isaac means laughter.)

Noah followed about 2 month later. The red tape took awhile but everything flowed like God had meant it to be so we were at peace.

We had 4 adoptions in 12 months and we were a family. We closed our home to foster children, our quiver was full and we started a new stage of life as permanent parents.

I told you the story was LOOOONG. But it is full of God’s grace and provision. We aren’t the perfect parents. But we tell the children that each and everyone of them is a gift from God.

Some things I learned from all this are:

  • You can’t always trust a social worker or a birth parent, but you can always trust God.
  • Even when things seem darkest, God is always working for your good.
  • God is in charge and nothing you can do will take that away from Him.
I’m tired from the telling, so I think maybe I’ll go grab the kids and we will watch a movie together. I hope my story has blessed and encouraged you. God is a good God, even when things don’t go the way you planned them.

Tuesday, May 29, 2007


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Check out this site. They are having a HUGE apron giveaway.

Constantly Amazed

I am constantly amazed at God's good grace. Thank you Lord!! My husband and I are enjoying a renewal of our love and have entered a new period of getting to know one another again. I am so grateful for this and I would shout it from the highest points of the earth if I could but I am a pretty simple girl and I don't travel much so I will shout it from my blog.

Thank you Lord for the Cableman!!!

Monday, May 28, 2007

Memorial Day at the Lake.

Another weekend of sun and fun. The lake was crowded and a little dangerous, especially when I was driving the boat. I'm not a very experienced driver and the boat got swamped when I drove it.

The Princesses Danielle and Gabrielle fighting off the Dread Pirate Noah.

Pirates board the ship and take the Princesses hostage.

Captain Cableman to the rescue.

Friday, May 25, 2007

Show and Tell Friday

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I wanted to show my bathroom. Since this weekend is a lake weekend, I thought "Hey why not show my Fishing Theme bathroom." I know it's weird to have a theme in a room, but my husband was complaining about not having any room reflect his personality. So I thought why not?

The picture came from Hobby Lobby, at one of their half price sales.

The shower curtain and towels came from good ole' Wal-Mart.
They say every home should have a little humor in the decorating. I guess mine is bathroom humor.
Have a blessed day!!

Thursday, May 24, 2007

People to Pray for. . .

I wonder what would happen if we prayed for those who curse us?

In that vein I'm gonna pray for these people.

My hair looks just like this today.

Thankful Thursday

This is my first Thankful Thursday. If I listed everything I was thankful for it would fill up the entire page and the entire day just listing them. So I'm going to pick one thing I am thankful for today. I'm thankful for my cousin Jennifer. She is a wonderful Christian woman. She is my sister in Christ. She is the "God-Mother" to my children. She is my confidante. She is my friend.

Thank you Lord for Jennifer.

Monday, May 21, 2007

Matthew 18:15 - 20

"If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over. But if he will not listen, take one or two others along, so that 'every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.' If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if he refuses to listen even to the church, treat him as you would a pagan or a tax collector. "I tell you the truth, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.
"Again, I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven. For where two or three come together in my name, there am I with them."

Jennifer Gill says that the Matthew 18 model ". . . is meant to be a tool to rebuke and call fellow brothers and sisters in Christ to repent and come back to the fold."

I personally am convinced that the church would suffer from much less "hypocrisy" if we practiced this model of conflict resolution. Notice that the first step is to go directly to the person who has wronged you. It doesn't say tell everybody what happened and make sure they are all on your side before you go to the person.

Friday, May 18, 2007

Show and Tell Friday

This is my first Show and Tell Friday.

I wanted to show my little poodle, he was a Valentine's day present from my wonderful husband 2 years ago. His name is Valentino, and we call him Tino. He is my buddy. He follows me around all day and is utterly devoted to me.

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Tuesday, May 15, 2007

Nolin River Lake a Haunting History

According to and the story I heard as a kid goes:

The name Nolin comes from early area settlers. The settlers were over-nighting on the river, and a young girl named Lynn wandered away from the riverside camp and became lost. Other members of the group looked for her but to no avail, returning to camp day after day, uttering the words, “No Lynn,” giving the river and later the lake their names. The father, after giving up on Lynn, died of a broken heart.

However, according to the Army Corp of Engineers' Website:

The Nolin River is named for the early American explorer and Kentucky militia member, Benjamin Lynn. Serving under George Rogers Clark during the Revolutionary War, Lynn traveled to Illinois to spy on the British and Indian forces, and also played a pivotal role in the Northwest Campaign on 1778-79. Following his return to Kentucky, Lynn and several friends were camped in the Green River Area. Lynn became separated from his friends and could not be found for several days. Each night, they returned from the search reporting “No Lynn.” The river at which they camped became known as the Nolin.

Either way it's an odd thing to name a lake that way.

Gas Prices and Gardening

Yesterday, Noah and I spent part of the day wandering around the local garden center dreaming of a huge garden. I'm really impressed with his love of plants. He asked if he could grow cucumbers, cantaloupes, watermelons and marigolds in the garden. I told him sure and we shelled out $4.50 for some more plants. He was very excited. He REALLY wanted to buy his Daddy an apple tree and surprise him by planting it, but I told him that he and his Daddy would have to take on that project.

This morning the news is reporting gas at $3.29 a gallon (they may as well say $3.30). I told the Cableman it was a good thing school is almost over and that we were homeschooling next year. It will be much less expensive on gas, not driving the kids back and forth to school everyday. And, it is a good thing we are putting in a garden since fresh fruit and vegetable prices are bound to go up!!

Sunday, May 13, 2007

A Mother's Day Planting Extravaganza

Today being Mother's Day my husband decided to give me something I haven't had in 8 years. Vegetable plants and a Rose bush. I'm so touched. Yesterday, he took me to Home Depot and let me pick any rose bush I wanted, I picked Blue Girl, I can't wait to Miracle Grow and love on it until it's HUGE!! Then last night when we came home he made me steak, corn on the cob, baked potatoes, and a HUGE salad. I am the luckiest woman in the world.

Just look at what we planted.

Spearmint just for fun. I wanted to plant it beside the house on the little strip between the driveway and the house just like I remember having as a child, but our wonderful neighbor weed eats that spot for us and I didn't want to tell him to stop, so for now I'll just put it in this cute fairy pot I got at a yard sale last year for $3.

The cableman wanted Strawberries, I've never container grown Strawberries before I think they need a bigger pot.

I thought I had bought some Better Boys and Sweet 100's but when I got home all I had were Sweet 100's, oh well, hope they like cherry tomatoes.

Here is my attempt at an heirloom tomato. A Mister Stripey.

Here's the Cableman's Patio Tomato plant, we'll see, I'm a bit dubious.

And. . . Drumroll please. . .

My Blue Girl Rosebush. I'm so excited.

Saturday, May 12, 2007

Didn't make it.

Hello, my name is Kim and I'm a yard sale junkie. I slipped, I fell, I backslid. I went to several yard sales yesterday. I spent a whopping $10.50. I bought 2 TV trays, 4 terra cotta pots, 3 tennis balls, and an electric scooter. I got the scooter for $5. It was an amazing deal and probably worth at least $50, but the man said he just wanted to get rid of it.

I potted up 3 pots of "mixed" flowers and plan on giving one to my Mom for Mother's day, one to my secret sister on Sunday and keeping one for myself. The scooter is at my brother-in-law's, it will be a good project for him since he can't leave the house and a wonderful birthday present for Danielle if he can get it fixed. I'll use the tennis balls for the kids at the lake, since they float (or at least I hope they do) they can swim after them.

I did however overspend at a plant sale. There is a little old lady on the street behind one of our local Catholic churches who sells plants. I don't know if she does it to make ends meet or if she does it for a hobby, but somehow I let her talk me into $15 worth of plants. I usually don't let people talk me into things like that, but since she was older and I didn't know how much she needed the money I went along with her. I guess I'm just a sucker when it comes to old people.

Thursday, May 10, 2007

Cutting the Clutter

I have such an urge to go to a yard sale this weekend. I really want to poke around in other people's stuff and see what they are selling. To bring home a prize, something I can't live without, is my ardent dream. However, my bigger dream is to have a home that isn't cluttered with junk. So I will refrain from buying other people's junk and instead focus on cleaning out and decluttering the clothes. Man this is going to be hard. Please pray for me.

Monday, May 7, 2007

Another Boat Weekend

Well not every boat weekend is going to be a raving success, this weekend it rained almost every day, I hurt my back and can hardly move, and the fishing wasn't so great. However, all in all we got to spend time together as a family.

The view from the campground. We rented a tent site for a night so we could shower, it is much cheaper than renting a cabin. The showers were pretty clean and the hot water was hot, so not much to complain about there.

The Cableman caught a flathead catfish. Yum!!

The girls coloring together a rare moment of peace.

It was pretty cold, but the kids went swimming anyway.

Gabrielle caught a crappie.
When you spend your time with family even the worst weekends are the best.

Thursday, May 3, 2007

Little Derby Float

We had to make a Derby float for Gabrielle's school, here is the scene of the crime.